tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-259482403735516016.post489441201420578687..comments2012-03-07T13:21:35.753-08:00Comments on Intruequest Idea Exchange: MULTIPLE REALITIESIntruequest Idea Exchangehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07400026579479582364noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-259482403735516016.post-74652358662714687972009-05-31T07:36:18.818-07:002009-05-31T07:36:18.818-07:00I love this topic. There is little that fascinate...I love this topic. There is little that fascinates me more. I believe that before I can "help others", I first have to get myself straight. I mean that the first piece of work is for me to remember (and truly "get it") that multiple realities almost always exist(and I find that many people have trouble buying this assertion). The second piece is to move myself into a place of true appreciation of differences -- I guess this fits with your "be curious" notion -- including moving off of my own position to one of neutrality. In other words, as a leader, I change my perpective from "how can others be seeing things differently from the way I see them?" (which keeps "my view" in the equation) to a more neutral kind of curiousity by asking "what are the many different ways to see this" (absent the comparison to "mine"!) If I can do this well and with ease, then I am better equiped to help others do it. I guess I would add that this whole exercise takes a lot of time, often more than any of us feel like we have, and of course awareness at any given moment that things are not as aligned as they seem, which takes astute attention. For example, it is so typical for people to hold a completely different picture of the meaning on one simple word. Just last week, a number of us were talking about leaving a meeting with "a plan", and in further conversation were able to determine that those words meant something different to each of us. Getting there required that us to slow ourselves down considerably.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com